Anger is another stage you will go through while recovering from your break up. Unfortunately it can be extremely destructive if you let it get out of hand.

Some of the signs that you are dealing with anger are:

• You have thoughts of getting back at him.


• You bad mouth him in front of your friends and family


• You decide that the break up is all his fault.


• You imagine killing yourself to make him feel guilty


• You hope he fails at whatever he's trying to do.


• You ask yourself how he could do this to you.

Holding your anger in can be harmful to you. It can make you sick or cause mental illness, but you can't go and take your anger out on him.

Seriously - yelling at your ex, doing things to get even, bad mouthing him are all things that will cause you more harm than it will him. You will just end up feeling guilty about it later.

You have to find a way to vent your anger without harming yourself or anyone else, here's a few suggestions.

Get yourself a punching bag and beat the crap out of it.

A word of warning here, I've taught martial arts I have noticed that women especially, but some men as well, do two things that could cause injury.

They bend their wrists, usually up, but sometimes down or to the side. Keep your wrist straight.

The other thing is some of them tuck their thumbs inside their palms or leave it sticking straight up. It should be tucked around the bottom of your fist near the finger nails.

Get a boxer or someone who knows martial arts to show you the right way.

By the way, take off your rings before punching anything, they will cut you.

Speaking of martial arts or boxing these are great ways to release your anger plus they are a fantastic workout.

Any kind of physical activity will burn off your anger, and the more aggressive and physically demanding the better it will work.

Here's another idea, stand in front of a mirror and yell and scream at yourself. You may feel somewhat foolish but it does help.

Or you can imagine your ex standing in front of him and you can shout out all the things this break up has done to you.

Try writing down all your feelings of anger.

I hope you are getting the idea. There are going to be times when you are furious over your break up and you need to find a way to express this anger in a non-destructive way.

Hang in there, you will get past this stage.

Anger is only one of the major stages you need to go through to get over your break up. Do you know what the rest of them are? Read How To Get Over A Break Up - 5 Major Stages

Gary Caine
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